When The Kids Are Diagnosed First.

How to talk about it.

When my kids were diagnosed high IQ I was living in a tiny village with a population of 606 spread out over many many miles. Everyone knew everything about it all….

I was the village idiot – simpleton at the very least and not in a good space-I digress, tis just to give you a bird’s eye view of the situation.

So what did you do?

Well initially when I started trying to explain what it was – not all straight A’s and a lot of self doubt, keeping it as simple as possible, they were not very intellectual and I was the simpleton!! 

‘So what do you know about it then?’

‘Well I did some research online, bought some books…. Ask the children questions…’

‘Yeah online, books….’  with obvious discredibility written all over them!

So I changed the way I said things…


The minute I started saying “WE” whilst talking about the effects, positive and negative of IQ in general, as opposed to talking from “the kid’s” point of view, 2 things happened:

  1. People started to listen          &
  2. I started making sense to myself. ???????? Could I be too?

The point being?

It’s not to be or not be high IQ, it is simply to allow yourself the possibility of 

        BEING X

Once you allow that then wow your whole world shifts and the research you do for the children tends to include you in it too.

As I write this I laugh for when a several years later when my son was being diagnosed for Aspergers, I did not think to apply this technique. Although even more years down the line, when my daughter was also being diagnosed Aspergers, the research came and hit me like a ton of bricks!