When The Kids Are Diagnosed First.
How to talk about it.
When my kids were diagnosed high IQ I was living in a tiny village with a population of 606 spread out over many many miles. Everyone knew everything about it all….
I was the village idiot – simpleton at the very least and not in a good space-I digress, tis just to give you a bird’s eye view of the situation.
So what did you do?
Well initially when I started trying to explain what it was – not all straight A’s and a lot of self doubt, keeping it as simple as possible, they were not very intellectual and I was the simpleton!!
‘So what do you know about it then?’
‘Well I did some research online, bought some books…. Ask the children questions…’
‘Yeah online, books….’ with obvious discredibility written all over them!
So I changed the way I said things…
The minute I started saying “WE” whilst talking about the effects, positive and negative of IQ in general, as opposed to talking from “the kid’s” point of view, 2 things happened:
- People started to listen &
- I started making sense to myself. ???????? Could I be too?
The point being?
It’s not to be or not be high IQ, it is simply to allow yourself the possibility of
Once you allow that then wow your whole world shifts and the research you do for the children tends to include you in it too.
As I write this I laugh for when a several years later when my son was being diagnosed for Aspergers, I did not think to apply this technique. Although even more years down the line, when my daughter was also being diagnosed Aspergers, the research came and hit me like a ton of bricks!